Compromise and Equalize

Coffees on and kids are watching TV so I have time to get my word out early today. :-)

How many times has this happened to you: Your roommate/boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife has taken it upon themselves to neglect thing at home due to work? Its a fight you get into once a week and there never seems to be any give or take, its always just too rocks banging together. What A Headache!!!!!! I am here to tell you, you are not alone. Every couple in the world has this fight in one form or another at some point. And i did at one point find a article (in some random mag like a bgillion years ago lol) written by a man explaining to other men why we women (or vice versa) get so mad and you men seem so clueless.. So instead of getting angry again, and fighting AGAIN I decided to tell this story to the rest of you.

A man is told to a simple task like take out the trash. He ties up the trash and walks through the garage puts the trash in the can and comes inside. When his wife gets angry he doesn't understand what he's done wrong. He had done exactly as she asked and this time he had done it right when she wanted him too. She sit down and explains to him that while taking out the trash he walked past the washer and dryer which had both stopped and needed to be changed, he also walked past the cat litter and could have cleaned it out since he was walking towards the trash anyway, and on the way back you could have brought in the dry load of laundry saving all three separate trips. He had never thought past taking the trash out and had not realized that  was how his wife's' mind worked.

Most men just think a job is A to B and most never realize that in a woman's mind jobs always have at least 5 step. And I know just as well as anyone else that men and women don't think alike but this is one step to help keep the peace. I know as a wife i don't want to have to explain every step of everything when i ask my husband to do something around the house.

So here's the compromise we can make: woman tell your men all the things that go into the process of your thought. When the smoke stops coming out of their ears try to find a good balance of things that will be easier for them to remember and helps give you a few less jobs, a few less arguments, and more time to just hang out with that guy you just happen to love.